dating workaholic man
what is the best way to make a breakup as painfree possible?
My current partner has been a good man to me, but due to our age difference I really have no attraction for him or much compatibility..
He has been a friend and ally in countless ways and I wish I didn't have to break his heart. . . but if I don't break it with him, I will never be able to date other guys my own age.
what is the best way to make a break up as pain free as possible? This man is very vulnerable, socially "weak", sensitive, clumsy, but very brainy and a workaholic.
Ending a relationship is a difficult decision, here are some tips to help you out.
1. Do it yourself. In person. Don’t text them, email them, tell them over the phone, or even have a friend do it for you. Give your soon-to-be ex the respect they deserve in hearing the words from your mouth and in seeing you tell them in person.
2. Pick an appropriate place to break up. Choose a place where your partner will be able to get emotional or ask questions. You owe them the opportunity to talk to you about why you’re letting them go.
3. Allow enough time for your partner to process the information. Remember, you’ve known for some time that you were going to break up, but it might take a few minutes for your partner to be okay with the news. Don’t just tell him you’re ending it and get up and leave. Allow a few moments for the news to sink in, and then ask him if he has any questions.
4. Be respectful. No matter how you feel right now, remember that there was something about this person that drew you to him. Don’t diminish his character or become verbally abusive.
5. State your reasons for breaking up in a straightforward but thoughtful manner. Even if he has hurt you, don’t say purposefully mean things to get back at him.
6. Don’t suggest you two can remain friends if you have no intention of doing so. Using this line is a cop out and will only serve to give your partner false hope.
7. Wish him the best, and mean it. It can be a scary thing to break up with someone who isn’t right for you. Trust that you are doing the right thing for you and your partner.
8. Lock your Heart up and Toss the Key - Being extra nice will do no good. Actually, it may give the other the sensation that you are second guessing your decision. Don't start the "I need time to think it over" cliche'. This will be perceived as if you are leaving the door slightly open to hopes.
9. Give your ex some space. It’s natural to be curious about how your ex is doing. It’s also possible that you’ll want to make yourself feel better by hanging out with someone you know is still into you, but doing so is immature and will only serve to hinder you in moving forward. Avoid hanging out at the places you know your ex will be until you’ve given the break up some time to absorb. Don’t keep showing up in places where you know your ex will be just because you’re bored or because seeing him gives you an emotional high.
10. Avoid Yo-Yo Effects - Be determined to break up. Don't break up and get back again. This will only prolong an already pitiful situation. Breaking up and coming back, creates a frustrating yo-yo effect which will wreck only havoc in your life. Your ex may take the break up in a stride at first, but then call or email you begging for a second chance. Remember that you are breaking up with him for a reason, so don’t second-guess yourself. If you receive a call or email from your ex, tell him politely once that you will always care for him but your relationship is over.
Good Luck>r
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